Deceiving is Believing You walk through the door and find one look in your friend's eyes, the truth is revealed. All this time, all these lies; all just to make sure they wouldn't find out, all to not develop that shameful look in their eyes. As you move further into the room, you realize that there was no way to reverse everything that happened, knowing that there was no way to change the one fact that What remained was the fact that you lied. Everyone lies, all the time, whether motivated by good or bad intentions. This poses problems, to say the least. The average person tells four lies a day, or 1,460 a year, for a total of 88,000 by age 60, and the most common is: "I'm fine." So why do people lie? It's all about the phases of oneself and trying to look good to oneself and others. No matter how you look at it, blatant lies are harmful because they damage the trust and intimacy of oneself and others, the glue that forms society. Whether it's a little lie, a shallow lie, or a big lie, it will affect oneself and those around them. How does lying affect a person's intimacy? relationship ? Lying is by far one of the most awkward and damaging behaviors possible in a committed and cherished relationship. Some say that intimate relationships are based on love, charm or need, but trust is the foundation of any loving relationship. What is the ideal way to destroy trust? Tell lies. An example comes from the tale “The Boy Who Cried Wolf”. The moral of the story, in essence, is that someone who lies rarely loses confidence. The fable ends with the deceiver devoured by the same wolf whose presence he had lied about. There are different forms and integrity of lyi...... middle of paper...... eventually come true. It may feel like one's self-esteem is being boosted due to self-deception, but in reality this only creates more anxiety and stress. By lying, it creates a perception of what is now required of the person. If one cannot achieve what one claims to be able to do, then it leads to compulsive lying, which ultimately not only hurts oneself but also others around that person. Lying is an inherently dishonest practice. Society depends on trust. Lying corrodes the social bonds and trust that humans rely on for continuity. If you can't trust the people around you, you can't work with them. Lying breaks this trust, which damages the social fabric, which harms yourself and those around you. We are an essentially social and dependent species and so we must, as a general rule, be fair and honest with each other..