Relationships between parent and child are those that can only be judged by those who understand the circumstances to which they belong. In "Everyday Use" and "Marriage is a Private Matter", the main similarity between the parent and children is disapproval of the way the parent or child lives their life. In "Marriage is a Private Matter", Okeke insists that his son coincides with the devil, insisting that "it is the work of Satan" if he should marry the one he is in love with rather than the one his father found for him. In "Everyday Use", Dee scorns her mother and sister's lifestyle, saying, "You should try to make something of yourself too, Maggie." It's really a new day for us. But the way you and Mom still live, you'd never know. In these two short stories, the offender doling out disapproval is not the child in "Everyday Use" or the parent in "Marriage is a Private Matter." “Everyday Use” and “Marriage is a Private Matter” are consistent with similarities and differences that illustrate the meaning of the stories. The main comparison that one could make between these two news is the disapproval of the choices one makes and the ignorance of the disapproval holds. In the short story “Marriage is a Personal Matter” by Chinua Achebe, the conflict between father and son arises from cultural norms and religion. The parent in this story, Okeke, sets out to arrange the marriage of his son Nnaemeka and a village girl. Okeke deeply disapproves of her son's choice, to the point of refusing to maintain any relationship with her son and daughter-in-law and insisting. that their marriage is “the work of Satan.” Later in the story we see their surrounding peers and neighbors see...... middle of paper ...... the reference between the stories is the end, Dee still looks down on her sister and mother and leaves, while Okeke is ashamed of his actions and his hopes as he falls asleep, he is afraid "of dying without making up for it." Dee and Okeke's arrogance prevents them from taking advantage of the family. Okeke has already failed to know his grandsons and may never know them due to his arrogance. Okeke realizes her mistake and fears that she will never be able to make up for it. Unlike Okeke, Dee is disappointed by the mistake she might regret, whether it's her youth or the fact that "no" is a word the world never learned to say to her, she might never be never conscious of what she has given up. . Regardless of what Okeke and Dee think, Maggie's mother Maggie, Nnameke and Nene seem very happy with the kind of lives they have "chosen" to live..