“Exiles are the very vulnerable and sensitive parts of us that have been hurt the most by emotional wounds in the past. » So, people try to disconnect from these painful emotions and memories so that they never feel them again. This leads other inner entities to become managers of these emotions. For example, a child who has been abused by a family member in the middle of the night in their bedroom may, as an adult, be brought back to their feelings of fear when their partner wakes them up by mistake in the middle of the night . Their managers would be activated to control the environment and suppress their feelings. However, “when managers fail to control exiled emotions, extreme behaviors emerge, such as addictions, binge eating, tantrums, and anger, and Schwartz calls these firefighters. » This is where conflict between married couples can arise requiring intervention. The husband has no idea how his wife feels at the time and thinks her reaction or demands are unrealistic. Yet through IFS therapy, care seekers can come to recognize the true emotion present and, as Schwarts says, "They stop berating themselves and instead get to know, rather than try to eliminate, the inner voices or the extreme emotions that tormented them. .” By addressing these emotions, clients can learn to lead themselves and see their