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  • Essay / Husband vs. Wife - 1087

    Husband vs. WifeSince traditional conceptions of masculinity and femininity define the man as instrumental and the woman as expressive, it follows that men and women cannot function in their traditional roles than in conjunction with each other. Each needs the other to perform at their peak in the world. A man is incomplete without care and tenderness and when he cannot find these qualities in himself, he becomes dependent on the woman in his life to provide them for him. A woman cannot function well without the assertiveness and leadership that she, if traditionally feminine, could not develop in herself. For these qualities, she becomes dependent on a man. Neither can be autonomous and this relationship is formalized within the institution of marriage. Once the relationship is established, tasks and behaviors are assigned based on gender-based criteria. The woman becomes the wife and mother with certain tasks and the man therefore becomes the husband and father with his own set of prescribed tasks and behaviors. In this relationship, powers are divided rather than shared. Man is given the power to make important decisions, to gain status and material goods. On the other hand, it assumes the power to feel, nourish, serve and manage the domestic and interpersonal life of the home. Women thus acquire power in private in exchange for submission in public. This is the traditional bargain between the two sexes. In accepting the role of wife, almost all women, especially role-oriented women, also accept the role of housewife. The derogatory phrase ā€œIā€™m just a housewife?ā€ characterizes the little esteem this position enjoys in our society. The housewife's responsibilities fall under at least twelve professional titles: nurse, housekeeper, seamstress, dietitian, cook, dishwasher, laundress, food buyer, driver, gardener, auxiliary nurse and maintenance worker. However, she receives no salary and has to ask her husband for money for almost everything. It is remarkable that most women still rush to take up such a position. The main task of the traditional housewife is to put the interests of her husband and children first. Her central mission in life is to care for her husband and children and finds her greatest satisfaction in her family. Moreover, for the traditional wife, individual success is proscribed, even if... her own well-being is disregarded as "woman's work." ? the chores of the lower sex. Assuming the responsibilities of a housewife for many men is once again an admission of failure, a sign announcing an inability to carry out men's work, which, if it were successful and profitable, would undoubtedly keep them busy in trivial tasks. However, men develop traits that are often not found in women. In their competitive world, men strengthen their own logic and rationality and learn to deal with problems, not people, as they advance, the latter in terms of status and prestige. The external supports in this world are strong and the rewards are tangible. They rarely have to worry about whether or not their work is noticed, appreciated, or valuable. At the same time that men's energies are engaged in this competition, they tend to lose touch with their own emotions or those of others. They are not interested in vital interpersonal communication when they return home after a day of work. Overworked and preoccupied, they..